Bluntness
It’s certainly no hidden feature of the Chinese, regardless of the region they come from (as China varies greatly in terms of character, regional accents and dialects as well as customs), that they can be blunt to the point they will almost offend you. Or that's what it feels like, anyway.
Of course, they mean well, and it is just a form of conversation that most Westerners find uncomfortable. Common and unnerving questions such as “How much do you earn?” “You’re older and fatter than before, shall we eat together?” and “Are you pregnant?” are commonly blasted out as a way to break the ice. Sometimes a Chinese friend will actually tell you they are on their menstrual period if you suggest something but they cannot take part.
In all cases, put on a brave face and smile – try to ignore impolite or personal questions! It’s a tricky situation that is best met with a smile and an “oh right” (in a way that you don’t fully agree with them), rather than a “how dare you” or best of all, a "ting bu dong" - I don't understand. Remember, no offence is intended at all.
